Mentoring is sometimes seen as a short sharp course with the aim of reshaping a person. I’ve seen it done that way, and I don’t like it. Not at all. I much prefer to see it as a gentle developmental relationship with someone who is treated as a son or daughter would be, that is with love, patience, and respect. Over the many years that I’ve spent investing in people I’ve come to realise that a mentoring relationship will, more than likely be lengthy, and will often result in a deep and lasting friendship.
Treasuring Their Dreams
I hear the longings of people’s hearts quite often. One of my favourite things is to draw people out and to hear them share the secret dreams which sometimes even they haven’t explored yet.
Our lives, so often, are smaller than they need to be. I think this may be linked to our understanding of God being pinched and small, like shoes long outgrown. Oh, how this needs to change!
Uncovering His Dreams, too
If we knew how he loves his creation, and his church, and those who haven’t met him yet, maybe we would get a bigger glimpse of what he has in mind for us.
‘For the Lord is always good and ready to receive you. He is so loving it will amaze you, so kind it will astound you! And he is famous for his faithfulness towards all. Everyone knows our God can be trusted, for he keeps his promises to every generation!’
Psalm 100:5 The Passion Translation
The Kindness of God Never Ceases to Amaze me.
When he answers the whispers of the heart, he shows himself such a kind and loving Father.
He hears and smiles when we talk to him of desires too wild to be spoken of in public, the ones we think of in the quiet of the night, wondering if we are crazy to imagine such happenings. They’re no surprise to him, he put the beginnings of them there in the first place.
When he stirs us towards those hopes and dreams and works with us to bring them into being, we get an intense taste of his personal delight in us, not because we’re any great shakes, but because we are HIS and he has loved us and taken great pleasure in us since, oh, forever.
Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.
Ephesians 1:4 New Living Translation
Moments of Discovery
I once had someone reluctantly admit what her dreams were, reluctant only because she knew I believed in her more than she did, and I’d want her dreams come into being, which can only mean being pestered and prodded and loved into doing something about it.
The funny thing is, her dream fitted her perfectly, but then it would wouldn’t it, because the one who made her in all of her quirky loveliness, had also planted seeds of the gifts in her, which would one day provoke her to the bravery needed to say, out loud: ‘This is my dream…’
Stickability on our Journey
We can be limited by many situations, not least the run of the mill stuff of life. This ‘stuff of life’ though, is where we gain the stamina to pursue our dreams and show we have what it takes. How do we do this? By being faithful in the small things, the ordinary work done well, the unobserved kindness, the rising in the night many times to a child who only wants his back rubbed and to see his mummy’s lovely face.
We just plod on through.
Plodding is a thorough training ground, it isn’t always exciting, but there we make progress and grow, as well as accomplish our task.
When we start to see the dawning of our dreams, we realise we are walking them out, and this time it isn’t in the dark of night, it is broad daylight with others at our side, seeing their dreams and hopes come true too.
‘Christ wants not nibblers of the possible, but grabbers of the impossible.’ — C.T. Studd